THE NICE GUY, THE GOOD GUY AND THE RIGHT GUY

right guy.jpgThe nice guy, the good guy and the right guy!

The path to finding true love, is an exciting adventure, a learning experience and it plays a key role in determining the quality of life you will have that is why you must  be careful in love, quit playing games, it’s a time waster, especially when it comes to choosing your happy ever after.  It is important to be able to distinguish between what’s real and what’s not, what is worth letting go and what is worth fighting for.

We meet and learn from some people and then our journey together is complete and over. It’s just the attachment to the idea of how we think something should be that causes us unnecessary suffering/confusion.

The most important BUSINESS decision a woman will ever make is choosing the man she marries. Don’t get it twisted, there is a RIGHT guy for every GIRL, (it requires patience and wisdom, you’d never find gold on the surface) but almost every girl will inevitably meet the nice guy, and good guy (they are everywhere) on her journey to happily ever after before she finally meets the her prince charming. These 3 people can be placed in three categories.

  • He comes into your life for a reason. (The Nice Guy)
  • He comes into your life for a season. (The good guy)
  • He comes into your life for a lifetime. (The Right Guy)

THE NICE GUY (A.K.A. The player)– He says all the right things, leads her to believe he cares, wins her heart and moves on after he’s gotten what he wants (or not, he never intended to stay anyway). This guy only scratches the surface of who you are, and would always leave you guessing his intentions, he handles rejection poorly and feels insulted when he doesn’t get the woman he thinks he deserves. He thinks he’s God’s gift to women and puts up an act of kindness (facade) to always make himself more appealing. Understanding his place in your life would save you from unnecessary pain.

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Because everyone has an intention when they come into your life, and initially  you have no idea what the end looks like but your gut instincts will always help you. (Always Listen to God’s voice in your heart)

THE GOOD GUY– He’s Confident, with a lot of Value. He sees Kindness as a lifestyle, and not a means to get something from a woman. He sees women as a gift from God. He has no intention of ever hurting a woman in any way.  The trick here is, most times, girls would feel tempted to settle for the good guy because many people don’t believe the RIGHT guy exists!

However, with all these great qualities, if you’re true to yourself, you realise deep down something is missing, there’s a void you can’t explain, but he’s a good man with great qualities, but good isn’t the same as GREAT, (and good is the enemy of GREAT) you can’t keep trying to fix a square peg into a round hole.  If you force it or settle, such a relationship would be far from fulfilling or exciting and it becomes unhealthy.  It’s better to be single and waiting (or searching) than be with someone that isn’t right for you, Believe me!

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THE RIGHT GUY(BEST)– There’s a perfect fit for everyone, no one is perfect don’t get me wrong, but there’s someone PERFECT for YOU. There’s something special about that guy that attracts your spirit, soul and body! The one you can switch from pretty princess to goofy with without being apologetic. He is the one you never have to be anyone but yourself around, your heart skips a bit, when you hear his name! You want to grow spiritually with him without thinking of getting bored. Even Adam woke up, saw eve and said, “This is now the bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh! It’s wonderful when you are with someone who is right for you, in the good and the challenging times, there’s a FOUNDATION of COMPATIBILITY (Intellectually, socially, spiritually, physically,and every other way), shared goals, interests, and common values.

  • He loves the way you get excited when you talk about how passionate you are about wanting to change the world.
  • He is growth Oriented.
  • He loves your good qualities, and accepts the bad, without making you feel guilty for your flaws. You can see it in his eyes, and his lips when they curl over. That’s what a healthy relationship is like (A Balanced diet OF PEACE + JOY). Don’t settle for less!
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INFUSED WATER

As a fitness enthusiast I began making infused water back in 2011 starting with the lemon/cucumber recipe i saw on tv. And i experienced its many wonders on my body.

Since then I have made it a part of my routine, whenever i feel like my body needs a reset, I include it into my diet

What Is Infused Water?

from looseweightbyeating.com

Also called detox water, fruit flavored water, or fruit infused water; infused water can generally be any combination of fruits, vegetables, and herbs immersed in cold water.

While infused water has the benefit of being full of flavor, it also has no calories, making it a very powerful tool in your efforts to lose weight and gain better health.

What Are The Benefits of Infused Water?

Besides tasting great and having zero calories, a water detox has many additional health benefits, including:

  • Improves your mood.
  • Flushes toxins from your system.
  • Fills you up so you don’t eat as much junk.
  • Naturally helps your body release fat cells for water weight loss.
  • Keeps food moving through your system.
  • Keeps your organs healthy while you’re sweating.
  • Reduces muscle fatigue while working out.
  • Helps you recuperate faster from a workout.
  • Keeps you from feeling groggy in the afternoon.

Top 5 Most Popular Fruit Infused Water Recipes

Everyone has their favorite fruit infused water ingredients, but some are more popular than others.

Fresh lemon, lime, strawberries, apple slices, and oranges and the most popular fruit ingredients, while cucumber slices, mint, basil, cinnamon, and ginger are the most popular vegetable ingredients.

Here is my list of the top 5 fruit infused water recipes:

  1. LEMON WATER
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When it comes to popularity, Lemon Water is the undisputed king of them all.

Also called Lemon Detox Water or Lemon Water, this detox drink recipe has the benefit of being really simple and tasty. Even though this lemon water detox recipe has only two ingredients, lemons and mint, the sweetness and sour from the lemons create a delicious flavor while also providing lots of Vitamin C and the mint adds a refreshing taste.

2. APPLE CINNAMON WATER

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Also called Detox Apple Cinnamon Water, this fruit water recipe is delicious and has the benefit of being metabolism boosting.

3. MANGO GINGER WATER

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Did you know Ginger and Mango both boost your metabolism? Along with boosting your metabolism ginger also is a natural pain reliever, from migraines to menstrual cramps ginger heals a lot of pain.

It also helps reduce morning or motion sickness and banishes heart burn! It’s no wonder this recipe is so popular!

TANGERINE AND STRAWBERRY INFUSED WATER

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This refreshing Tangerine and Strawberry Infused Water recipe contains fruits that are high in Vitamin C and are big metabolism boosters!

Strawberries and tangerines one of my favorite combos, and both hot and cold this is a delicious drink.

This year-round favorite will have you drinking more water quickly.

 

CLARITY

 

Clarity is simply put as FREEDOM FROM CONFUSION. Every phase in life is a time of constant learning, there’s never a moment in our lives when we have it all figured out and all our plans are crystal clear. Our Relationships, career, business and our dreams for the future are all left to hover around us, like unfinished sentences, beginning with enthusiasm but trailing off when reality rudely interrupts., How are you supposed to establish your place in this millennial world without clarity? It’s like we know how we’re supposed to start, but we’re not sure which words come next

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The idea of gaining clarity is one I’ve come to fully appreciate. Last year made me realise that taking steps without gaining adequate clarity automatically sets you up for failure whether it’s in relationships, business, a career path and what not.

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If our paths are surrounded by vague plans and half-hearted commitments, how will we get to where we want to be? If you don’t even know what you want, how will you ever get it?

STEPS TO GAINING CLARITY

  • PRAYER-There’s really no substitute to this. It worked for me and it’s one of the really effective ways you can gain clarity, which leads to the next POINT. We can never have everything figured out because we weren’t created that way and this is where the place of GOD comes in. We can always communicate with the ONE who is LARGER than life itself. He has seen the end even from the beginning and is instrumental in the events that shape our destiny and the sweetest part is when you ask him for clarity in any aspect, he always reveals things to us, he will tell you!
  • HAVE A VISION– Getting a clear picture of your life is like throwing those questions like paint on a canvas. What is my vision in life? Where am I headed? What is my purpose? Splatter them across your mind, adding more and more depth and colour with every stroke. It’ll most likely be a mess at first, but every single wayward splash of paint will create something. Finding an articulate awareness of your life begins with figuring out who you are, and you can’t do that without being honest about what you truly want – from yourself, from relationships, from friendships, from jobs, from basically everything in your life. A bit of introspection can turn your outlook around and open your eyes wide to your potential plans.
  • ASK THE RIGHT QUESTIONS- I hear my mentor say this to young people all the time. “leadership is about asking the right questions”, meaning you can ask questions and still miss your way. Ask yourself the questions you might be avoiding. You know, those that could trigger changes for which you may feel unprepared: “Do I even like this job?” “Why am I doing this?” “Do I love this person?” “Am I just afraid?” “Do I actually want this?”….. Questions like this, often lead to a defining moment in our lives especially when we are being honest with ourselves.
  • LIVE PASSIONATELY-This is where everything culminates. When you get to know yourself, you’ll start to have your own back. Putting yourself out there gets things done. Doing so clears up uncertainty and shows you’re clear about what you want. You believe in what you’re saying, doing and representing.

Gaining clarity remains a work in progress and it always will because life simply isn’t clear-cut. But, having elements of clarity and knowing that it’s important helps us to speak up when we need answers and gain perspective where we’re lacking.

REFERENCES

IMAGE 1 (source)- https://smartchristianwoman.wordpress.com/2015/08/05/a-purpose-driven-woman/

Article originally seen on – http://elitedaily.com/life/motivation/whats-even-going-importance-gaining-clarity-life/871417/

 

 

It’s not about YOU!

ITS NOT ABOUT YOU     …a wake-up call like no other into self discovery.

We make many of our decisions based on our own needs and desires. It’s all about me!!! My feelings, needs, wants, personal goals, dreams….. Sigh!!! No, life is not about you honey, we’re all miffed and guilty about this sometimes. Accidents happen, we hurt each other knowingly or unknowingly. Life throws us lemons. And we can choose to be sour about it or we can squeeze them, add some sugar and enjoy. Why me? A very common phrase we use when things don’t go our way. (huffpost.com)

Our perception about life makes all the difference in the creation and sustainability of our well-being.

LIFE IS IN DIFFERENT SHADES

Life is not centered around you!

Once you begin to accept this, you’re on your way there otherwise it’ll be a long, confusing crawl in the park experience. If you can begin to embrace life and everything that comes with it, the good, bad and ugly, the ups and downs, you’re in for a smoother ride.

LIFE HAPPENS TO EVERYONE

We humans are deeply flawed and the more we entangle ourselves with each other, we’re more likely to be wounded by another. Because someone’s decision hurt you doesn’t mean it was their intention. The way to go is to separate a hurtful word or deed from the entirety of the person and you will find more peace in relationships than you ever imagined. The principle of advanced forgiveness still applies (first heard that from the lips of a mentor). Forgive people in advance even before they hurt you.

IT’S REALLY ABOUT GOD and his GLORY!!

I had to save the best for the last. Fact is we’re all stars of our own show and we make choices based on the plot direction of our doing. We are to live through life’s circumstances/situations for God’s glory whether the bad/good. with all our various pursuits and goals, dreams and ambition, its easy to forget about what really matters.

He made everything for his purpose and glory, and nothing goes by without his consent. So i wonder why we get overwhelmed with delays, denials, instead of focusing on the bigger picture, our highest calling.

“Whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God”-1 corin 10:31

“Put your trust in Jesus Christ and live for the glory of God”- Col 3:17

IT’S ABOUT IMPACT

The more of God you know the less self centered you’d become. There are so many gifts and potentials he has laid in you to serve others with.

Living for God’s glory may sometimes mean choosing a difficult path instead of an easy one. it will require a change in your priorities, schedule, relationships and even change your outlook to life. In actual fact its really about moving from mediocrity into greatness, because life is bigger than us therefore we must get over ourselves and shift our focus on God, His purpose, His will, That’s how we win in life!

REFERENCES

tonyevans.org

The purpose driven life by rick warren

YOU ARE ROYALTY!!

 And hath made us kings and priests unto God and his Father; to him be glory and dominion for ever and ever. Amen. Rev 1:6 kjv

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You are KING! It’s not pride, it’s who you are! Having a ROYALTY mentality is the number 1 rule in the game to OWNING your CROWN, choosing not to settle for less than God’s BEST!! 🔥

Dear single ladies- If you don’t know who you are, you’d pay attention to ‘anything’ you hear about yourself, if you don’t know where you’re going, anywhere would look like it, if you don’t stand for something, you’d fall for anything, I guess these words ring a bell?img_2721-copy

EMBRACING A ROYALTY MENTALITY

  • Allows you to honor and respect yourself in a healthy way.
  • Prevents you from counterfeit relationships because you have received  God’s unconditional love, you are able to discern and sift the toads, rogues,peasants, and wolves in sheep clothings who can only offer manipulation not LOVE.img_2726-copy
  • Makes you understand that God has reserved you for a king therefore you won’t cast your precious pearls before swines ⬆ because you KNOW you are a PRICELESS JEWEL and your BODY is God’s temple so you wont go kissing every ‘toad’ the gives you attention.

YOU ARE KING!! EMBRACE YOUR ROYALTY!

ps- one step to becoming royalty is by knowing God your creator. Knowing and believing that he sent his only son to die for you is more than enough reason to accept and believe!!! kindly say these words if you genuinely want to…….Sinners-prayer-1

Godbless you!!!

The WINNING Love III

LOVE FOUND ME

LOVE……💕 is indescribable, you can’t fully explain it, It just happens, most times when you don’t expect it and in the most unusual way

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The WINNING Love part III goes to my girl Antoinette and her sweetheart Chris for getting it right! CHEERS!!! to TheQueenandtheCaptain2016

qk9Antoinette is someone I’ve known for a very long time now and whats not to love about her? In a world where most young girls perceive  beauty as a tool for instant gratification. They think to themselves, ‘I’m beautiful please, let me use what i have to get what i want’.qk2But Antoinette, an ex-beauty queen (mbgn’s Miss lacasera 2010 ) defied that! Choosing delayed gratification instead. As a God-lover, Antoinette exemplified the attitudes of a proverbs 31 woman with the many Hats she wears: C.E.O ToniesMane, Founder of The Esther Legacy, Writer for https://thequeentonie.com/  where she expresses her christian faith unapologetic-ally and a chemical engineering graduate. she has proven that beauty is more than just a pretty face and seeking God, fulfilling purpose as a single girl waiting to get married are the fundamentals to a Fulfilling Happily Ever After!!!!

Its a few days to antoinette and chris’s wedding  and I thank you Lord because it will be a beautiful day, marriage was your idea, Lord, and a beautiful wedding is a wonderful way to begin a brilliant marriage. So excited! Let the Count down Begin!!

PS: You can read up on her LOVE STORY from her wedding website:……http://www.thequeenandthecaptain.com/qk5Just when you don’t expect, is When LOVE Happensqk4True Love waitsqk6TheQueenandTheCaptainqk8A three-fold cord is NOT-EASILY-BROKENqk7Love is Eternal

THE WINNING LOVE II

Love is PATIENT, Love is KIND, It does not ENVY,

It does not BOAST, It is not PROUD……

1 corin 13:4

Love is for people who are realistic, and smart enough to open their hearts and mind, and who realize that a ‘REAL’ relationship is the ULTIMATE fantasy 💞💞

-Lane from beauty and the briefcase

tkkIts a joy to bring back part II on  ‘the winning Love’, September was indeed a month to remember and since the union of kemi and Chima, (#kemichi2016) i don’t think I’ve ever been this excited about another wedding like Tolu and Mike (#TM2016). It’s gonna be a D-EE-Cember  to R-EE-Member!!!!

Earlier this year, i got the news that mike had finally hit the jack pot 😁🤾🏿🤸🏿🤸🏿, whoosa! He proposed! I couldn’t be happier for my girl Tolu

I had known tolu for a while in school but only from a distance, and I really admired her lifestyle, her love for God and people and her gorgeous smile. Then i started my masters program and her room was only a few seconds away, i met her properly and we clicked. As our regular routine in school, we’d have morning and evening devotions and on this particular night devotion, I cant really recall what it was that got Tolu talking about her boyfriend with so much glow in her eyes (you needed to have seen her) she was soooo excited!(he was on IT then) She goes, ‘my boyfriend came to see me in school today! Oomygosh! He did this, he did that……… I don’t remember any details 😂😂😂 but I know she was so happy, it was the cutest thing ever..tkkk

I love love so i couldn’t wait to see this boyfreen…😎 that got Tolu blushing so much. I met mike afterwards and i was impressed! There was this cool, loving and sincere vibe around him and i couldn’t be happier for the both of them. Mike truly loved T not just with words but his actions were visible (I’m a witness!😁)tkkkkkkktkkkkk

Its a few days to tolu and Mike’s wedding  and I thank you Lord because it will be a beautiful day, marriage was your idea, Lord, and a beautiful wedding is a wonderful way to begin a brilliant marriage. I cant wait to witness this! When two God-lovers come together, it spic-eey!! May your home be spic-eey! Congratulations Tolu and Mike 🎈✨🎉🎉🎆🎆🎊🎊

PS: You can view their Love story from their website here : https://www.theknot.com/us/tolulope-kumuyi-and-michael-ukegbu-dec-2016#our-storytkkkddddtkkkkkkkkk

The Winning LOVE

🎶  ‘People Fall in love in mysterious ways, maybe just the touch of the hand’ 🎶 ~ Ed sheeran (thinking out loud)lover

So it’s the Big September, the month to Remember and Guess what??? My big sister is getting married!!!!💃💃💃 And I’m so excited! Yaaayyy!!

But what’s about their kind of love that I admire so much? Its beyond the touch of their hands, or the beauty they exude when they look into each-others eyes and smile, or the feelings they share or the sweet nothings they whisper into each others’ ear,

What stands TALL for me is the content of this love, the WINNING love!love wins

When Chima came along i asked who and what is this guy all about? Knowing fully well, this was about my sister, so it was my duty to do the needful. i watched closely and observed, watching out for the WINNING love and it didn’t take too long, i saw it and my mind was at rest, Yes, my sister is in good hands! Haha! You may want to know, but what’s this winning love all about?

FEW THINGS I LEARNT FROM THE DUO

Its the way He points her to GOD. A couple that prays together, wins together! Its amazing to see two people in a ‘relationship’ pray together first thing in the morning over the phone, (the ultimate romance)
love l“Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.“~ Ecc 4:12

He sees her flaws as BEAUTIFUL– We all have our flaws, and sometimes it gets in the way of our relationships. Many relationships turn sour because  unconditional love is absent. But How beautiful is it, that the very things you call your flaws are those same things that make you closer. (Beautiful Imperfection)lovek

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres“~1 corin 13:4-8

He Pushes Her to the Fulfillment of her Dreams: Behind every successful woman is a confident man who doesn’t mind to see his woman in the spotlight while he makes things happen in the background. You can find that in ‘one’ out of ten men. How awesome is that?love wins

He makes her So happy: There’s a popular joke that says: ‘if you’re in a relationship and all you do is cry everyday, then you need to stop and ask yourself”, am i dating a human or an ONION?~unknown

My sister surely didn’t date an onion, because her joy in this relationship was ever so contagious that everyone could feel it… #theultimaterelationshipgoals

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Its a few days to Le sisters wedding  and I thank you because it will be a beautiful day, marriage was your idea, Lord, and a beautiful wedding is a wonderful way to begin a brilliant marriage.

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And I wish them a lifetime of bliss and fulfillment in marriage.hands-heart-sunset

What Love is

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The rose is red, the violet’s blue,

The honey’s sweet, and so are you.
Thou art my love and I am thine;
I drew thee to my Valentine:
The lot was cast and then I drew,

And Fortune said it should be you

¬ Gammer Gurton’s Garland (1784):

People who fall in love are said to be 💖 ‘struck by Cupid’s arrow’. yomyomd

Love is such a beautiful thing, that’s why I chose it as my wall décor and with today being valentine’s day, what better time to talk about love than now?

Everybody loves love! Every one yearns for love. Love is the simplest yet so difficult to understand. People have looked for the true meaning of love. Books had been written, stories have been told but none of them give us complete understanding about this subject. Because love is what matters most, it takes top priority. Learning to love unselfishly is not an easy task. It runs counter to our self-centered nature.

That’s why we’re given a lifetime to learn it. Our idea of love is Two people coming together hoping that the whole will be greater than the sum of the parts, only to find that it’s less. The most desired gift of love is not diamonds or roses or chocolate. It is focused attention and that’s why we’d be focusing on love from God’s perspective:

Facts about love

True love is a mystery: It is often very romantic to say that you were “nothing” until that special person came along, but it is not true. Love is not a ‘feeling’, if you cannot love yourself, you cannot love another and how can you even receive love if you haven’t properly understood God’s love?

True Love is eternal: Love cannot be drowned by oceans or floods; it cannot be bought, no matter what is offered.
~ Song of Songs 8:7hands-heart-sunset

True love leaves a legacy: “It’s not what you do, but how much love you put into it that matters.” ¬ Mother Teresa , In our final moments we all realize that relationships are what life is all about. Love is the secret of a lasting heritage.

True love can’t be bought: The essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves. love is “earned” through trust, If someone really loves you, its for who you are not what you can buy.

True love is letting go: When we begin to obsess over something/someone, love is missing. Love should be touched not strangled. Whatever is yours will always come back to you. If you truly love someone/something, you’d let them choose for themselves.You can’t change people, circumstances, situations. You can only align with them. Or not.

Excerpts from inspirational books and articles

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Now every other thing will fail but love will never fail, so it will be wise to Align yourself with the ONE who is LOVE himself ❤❤❤, no other but GOD!!! And you can do that through his son JESUS!!! If you haven’t received the lover of your spirit/soul/body into your life kindly say this prayers:Sinners-prayer-1

So there you go! Welcome to the best life of LOVE!!!!

 

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