The nice guy, the good guy and the right guy!
The path to finding true love, is an exciting adventure, a learning experience and it plays a key role in determining the quality of life you will have that is why you must be careful in love, quit playing games, it’s a time waster, especially when it comes to choosing your happy ever after. It is important to be able to distinguish between what’s real and what’s not, what is worth letting go and what is worth fighting for.
We meet and learn from some people and then our journey together is complete and over. It’s just the attachment to the idea of how we think something should be that causes us unnecessary suffering/confusion.
The most important BUSINESS decision a woman will ever make is choosing the man she marries. Don’t get it twisted, there is a RIGHT guy for every GIRL, (it requires patience and wisdom, you’d never find gold on the surface) but almost every girl will inevitably meet the nice guy, and good guy (they are everywhere) on her journey to happily ever after before she finally meets the her prince charming. These 3 people can be placed in three categories.
- He comes into your life for a reason. (The Nice Guy)
- He comes into your life for a season. (The good guy)
- He comes into your life for a lifetime. (The Right Guy)
THE NICE GUY (A.K.A. The player)– He says all the right things, leads her to believe he cares, wins her heart and moves on after he’s gotten what he wants (or not, he never intended to stay anyway). This guy only scratches the surface of who you are, and would always leave you guessing his intentions, he handles rejection poorly and feels insulted when he doesn’t get the woman he thinks he deserves. He thinks he’s God’s gift to women and puts up an act of kindness (facade) to always make himself more appealing. Understanding his place in your life would save you from unnecessary pain.
Because everyone has an intention when they come into your life, and initially you have no idea what the end looks like but your gut instincts will always help you. (Always Listen to God’s voice in your heart)
THE GOOD GUY– He’s Confident, with a lot of Value. He sees Kindness as a lifestyle, and not a means to get something from a woman. He sees women as a gift from God. He has no intention of ever hurting a woman in any way. The trick here is, most times, girls would feel tempted to settle for the good guy because many people don’t believe the RIGHT guy exists!
However, with all these great qualities, if you’re true to yourself, you realise deep down something is missing, there’s a void you can’t explain, but he’s a good man with great qualities, but good isn’t the same as GREAT, (and good is the enemy of GREAT) you can’t keep trying to fix a square peg into a round hole. If you force it or settle, such a relationship would be far from fulfilling or exciting and it becomes unhealthy. It’s better to be single and waiting (or searching) than be with someone that isn’t right for you, Believe me!
THE RIGHT GUY(BEST)– There’s a perfect fit for everyone, no one is perfect don’t get me wrong, but there’s someone PERFECT for YOU. There’s something special about that guy that attracts your spirit, soul and body! The one you can switch from pretty princess to goofy with without being apologetic. He is the one you never have to be anyone but yourself around, your heart skips a bit, when you hear his name! You want to grow spiritually with him without thinking of getting bored. Even Adam woke up, saw eve and said, “This is now the bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh! It’s wonderful when you are with someone who is right for you, in the good and the challenging times, there’s a FOUNDATION of COMPATIBILITY (Intellectually, socially, spiritually, physically,and every other way), shared goals, interests, and common values.
- He loves the way you get excited when you talk about how passionate you are about wanting to change the world.
- He is growth Oriented.
- He loves your good qualities, and accepts the bad, without making you feel guilty for your flaws. You can see it in his eyes, and his lips when they curl over. That’s what a healthy relationship is like (A Balanced diet OF PEACE + JOY). Don’t settle for less!